You used to be a challenge for her. You had a high appeal and she was initially irresistibly drawn to you. Now she's gone and you are saying: "I want my ex back!"
I'm going to make a wild guess here, but is it that as time went on, you have become less and less of a challenge for her? And could it be that at this time, you might be absolutely no challenge for her? Not to mention that she realizes if she wanted to, at any time she could easily get you back again and wrapped around her finger simply by saying the word?
Now I'm going to be crude here, but as you know, to develop into a challenge once more you have to demonstrate to your ex lover that her sexuality does not have any control over you any more. Think about what it's like when you're stalking her with not returned telephone calls, voice mails, text messages, and emails. After which think of exactly what it is like when you keep doing it (as a lot of guys do) even after she's told you to stop. You will be indicating to the woman that you are a low-value guy with no other sexual options.
Your lady is not going to respect you again until you reject her lovemaking dominance over you. Thankfully you're doing that now by not directly corresponding with her. The last thing she needs to hear from you now is how much "I want my ex back", so stay away from her.
You should definitely stay 100% strict with your communication cut-off. Don't be "friends" with her, as that rewards your ex with the ongoing consent of power over you while giving her a comfortable justification to stay separated. (Your lover reasons that she's letting you down easy this way, assuaging virtually any guilt she may experience.)
However, always keep her locked in with your stuff. More than likely a lot of your belongings are at her residence, and vice versa. She could even owe you money as well. She may request a mutual friend of yours to ask you if you want everything returned.
The ideal response to this is definitely "No, not yet. The justification is simply because her holding onto your things (and you possessing hers) is still locking you two in and ensuring future communication. You do NOT want to provide her the psychological closure that would be caused by settling your accounts.
For the next 3 weeks, you have to completely acknowledge -- and embrace -- the idea that you're an independent person now. Take what happened with your ex-lover and learn from it. You've got a fantastic chance to revolutionize your life which will ultimately allow you to get your exgirlfriend back.
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